Is he a man or a boy?!?
Have you ever asked yourself; "Do gallant men really exist anymore? Where are those men that want to sweep you off your feet, take your breath away, adore you and spoil you?"
The truth is, if you don’t have a gallant man in your life maybe you've stepped way too far into your masculine energy and you’re scaring him off.
Hard to believe but true. I know because I was one of those women who had bigger balls than most men. I even looked like a man - my hair was short and you'd only catch me in a suit or pants.
One of my biggest learnings that I'm so grateful for, was figuring out how to step out of male energy and back into my female energy.
It felt soooooo good!!!! Not only did men start asking me out, the boys dropped away. Finally it felt safe for me to be in my feminine energy again.
Learning about the king and queen archetypes was the key to having my King Find me!
And can be for you too.
Seriously, if I knew what I know now at 20, I'd be a lethal weapon! lol
So how do you know if he's a man or a boy?
Well Ellin, one of our gorgeous Bling Ladies sent me this after attending my workshop How to be a Queen and have a King. It tells it like it is and I want to share it with you:
"A man knows what he wants, and goes for it. A boy may have somewhat of an idea, but not really. He doesn’t think too much about it, and even if he does, doesn’t exert much effort to get it. A boy is passive, a man is assertive.
A man plans for his future and is working towards building a foundation and infrastructure in order to have a family (at some point in his life) or another purpose or passion. A boy lives only in the moment and his plans are mostly around which bar he’s going to hit up on the weekend.
A man looks for a woman with intelligence, who is supportive, grounded and encompasses a shared set of values when choosing a partner. A boy cares mostly only for girls who are hot, wild and exciting.
A man knows a good woman when he meets one and will take initiative to get to know her. A boy may make an attempt if you’re lucky, but gives up before ever really trying.
A man has the courage to have uncomfortable conversations. He is honest with his intentions and lets people know where they stand. A boy avoids. He ignores confrontation or any serious talks about feelings. Instead of dealing with a situation, he runs away from it or creates drama or excuses to mask the fact he’s not that into you or a relationship.
A man knows when to invest in a woman and jump in with two feet. A boy is always “testing” – he doesn’t fully commit because he never knows if he is quite ready. But the truth is, because he is a boy, regardless of who he meets, he will never be ready due to the stage of life he is in.
A man knows how to have a good time and be social, but is often busy making strides in his career and building his life. A boy is getting drunk with his buddies at the bar every weekend.
A man takes the time to reflect on the type of man he wants to be, the example he wants to leave and the vision for his life. He has put thought into his values. A boy has not established his moral compass or values and consequently, is often inconsistent.
A man has integrity. He means what he says, and says what he means. He follows through with his actions and his promises. And if he can’t he has the guts to tell you why. A boy makes promises but doesn’t follow through.
A man is afraid of rejection but will put himself out there anyway. A boy is afraid of rejection and acts passive so that his pride and ego won't ever get too banged up.
A boy plays games. A man doesn't."